Stepping Outside of One's Comfort Zone
I often here as a boudoir photographer in my VIP group “I wish I looked liked her, then I’d do a shoot”. The thing is, you are looking at yourself through the same negative lens that you have been trained to do so (from society, past experiences, trauma, etc.) and often you can’t even begin to imagine what I see through my lens.
Many women think they need to be something other than who they are. That they aren’t worth the investment in themselves (would you tell your friend or partner not to do something that would give them confidence or that they’d enjoy?!). Many say they have no time (girl you take those personal days for appointments, this is just like that, do it, you’re worthy of doing so!).
If you don’t take it from me, at least take a moment to hear from this amazing woman.. a woman who gave me every excuse in the book on why she couldn’t book, even though she contacted me 5x to “just find out information” lol. Once she finally took a step away from those excuse she booked, she grew, and I’ll let her tell you herself.
Hair & Makeup Artist: Leanne Smith of Dollhouse Beauty YYC Fantastic job as always my dear friend.
In Her Own Words
What was your #1 motivator in having a boudoir session with me?: Truly, when I think back to my WHY, it is 100% because I needed to step out of my comfort zone, try something new and do something only for me - things I rarely do.
In 3 words or less, how would you describe your session with me?:
A hell of a lot of fun!
What did you order? Were you happy with the quality of the products?: I ordered the journal album. My husband and I love it!
Would you recommend having a boudoir session to your friends?: Yes, definitely!
How often do you look at your images/product?: Weekly
Would you do another session with me?: HELL YEAH!
Please tell me your thoughts about your experience and how it has impacted you: I don't even know who added me to the original Facebook group, but suddenly I was a part of this group that was filling my feed with posts about women, bodies, and female empowerment. I was slowly drawn in to various conversations and dialogue and was mesmerized by the images I saw Shannon post. When I saw them I thought to myself, "I can do that too..." but it took quite a while to convince myself of that. In fact, I told myself numerous times that this was not for me: I was not beautiful enough, I didn’t have time, I could NEVER look like those women, etc while secretly wishing I DID have the confidence to do a boudoir shoot…
Finally, one night after having a few glasses of wine, I reached out to Shannon via Facebook just to inquire about a session and we began chatting. One night I just took the plunge and booked it a few months out. I never felt nervous. In fact, it was quite the opposite. I was so ready and excited to do this thing for me, to get all dressed up (or down haha), have my hair and make up done, and enjoy time feeling amazing and unstoppable without children hanging off of me…
I have 4 children under the age of 7, and one of my pregnancies was twins, so I have experienced a lot of changes in my body. I am also approaching 40, and with that I have seen a lot of changes in my body. It has taken a lot of positive self talk and conversations with myself to realize that these changes are part of my journey as a woman and mother. I have hips and breasts and curves, and they are here to stay (and they are amazing!). Honestly, having seen myself in the images that Shannon took has helped me to accept that this who I am and this is where I am on my journey. I think back to that day and to the moments she captured, and think to myself, "HOLY SHIT! I AM HOT!" Since that day I can honestly say that I walk taller, hold my head higher and feel more confident in who I am.