No Shame In A Woman's Sexuality
As a Boudoir Photographer who specializes in body positivity, I see all types of women come in my studio, we all have certain aspects that are common ground or nearly the same for all. Women often come into the studio shy, nervous and/or anxious. They settle in, get comfy and chit chat during hair and makeup. They get nervous when the camera comes out, by the end they have completely transformed. It’s often represented in a lighter step, a head held high, and a smile across her face. I see women accept themselves as beautiful and pretty and saucy.
One thing that I am known for is pushing my clients, in the most kindest and wonderful way of course. I am known as someone who will challenge the status quo, challenge the masks you wear, challenge the thoughts you have, and someone who will push you past all that.
One thing I haven’t been pushing that much on lately is sexuality. It’s been something that I somehow was stuck on, and I felt it lacking in my work lately. Well that’s all about to change! Yesterday I had hosted a Photographers Playdate, where 5 of us female boudoir photographers from here in Calgary got together. We created friendships online but now in person, we had fun and it was absolutely joyous. We learned from one another and pushed each other to do something we may not always be comfortable doing.
My fire for capturing sensual/sexual imagery where a woman can truly see that being sexual is not shameful or guilt-worthy has been re-ignited.
One thing for a woman who is plus size, coming from myself who is a plus size/fat-bodied person (reclaimed the word fat, so please know this is a positive term used), is that we are told that fat bodied people are not sexy. We are trained to hid our bodies, shelter the world from our skin, our tums, and glorious arms so that we make everyone else in the world feel comfortable. Well not today folks… not today! I am going to push the envelope with all my ladies, but let me break it down here…. you as a plus size woman are fierce and sensual and fucking sexy… and I am going to show you just that! I am going to have/allow you to touch parts of your leg, pubic bone, tum, arms, neck, hair and show you that your body is WORTHY of being touched and shown. And yes it may not be flat or a straight line, but who cares?! Your body is worthy of being captured in all it’s glory because you my dear are a QUEEN!
My ladies who are not plus size, you are not forgotten, I know through watching every woman who I meat, that if you are human that you have personal struggles. Body & self image is not about the body you have, it’s the mental aspect, it’s past experiences, it’s more than about just that body and skin suit you are wearing! So I know that even if you are exactly what society says is PERFECT and that you are the size everyone wants to be, and have the hair that’s currently in style….. let me tell you right now that I see and hear you and your struggles. I know that your struggles are real, and I will never tell you otherwise. I want you to see that your body is just as worthy and acceptable as everyone else. I know that you may have a past experience that says you can’t be a sensual/sexual female, because I’m going to guestimate that 99% of us women have/are shamed about sex and being our bodies (I mean look at the political climate around the world… I digress…kinda..) I know that you need a safe place to accept not only your body, but your sensuality just as much as plus size woman.
So here I announce today, that I will be pushing my clients to be even sexier. No, you won’t know it in the moment typically because let’s be very real here for a moment, posing and modeling for a camera/photographer is NOT simple. In fact it is very hard work, one in which people often doubt, and they repeat in sessions how much hard work it is. So if you are saying to yourself right now “I don’t know how to be sexy” or “I have a goofy sex face” girl, I gotchu!!!! That IS my job as a photographer with thousands of hours into my education as a boudoir photographer, to coach you through every little thing, head to toe I will place you where you need to be, I promise.
Another thing I often here is “I am not confident enough” and now that I am saying I’m going to be even sexier with my imagery you are probably thinking oh hell naw I can’t do that. Well girlfriend listen up, you CAN. EVERY.SINGLE.CLIENT of mine has walked in nervous and not fully confident. Some have come at the highest of their journey as a celebration but that is very rare, because truly many of my clients come to me at their lowest. I will spark your confidence during the session. All I ask is that you allow me to guide you in prep, that you allow me to guide you during the posing, and that you trust in me and what I am asking of you. The ability to do this is inside of you, you need the safe place to let it out, and I ALWAYS make the best effort I possibly can to do this for you. So if you are thinking “I’m not confident enough to do this” then I am asking you to reach out to me and book, because we are going to change that together!
Oh one last thing, that I REALLY want to mention! I took this opportunity to also do way less skin editing than I typically do for my client work. I decided I want these images to be very raw and pretty much what the eye sees (my camera lens captures basically high def, so more than our eyes see). and I LOVE it! Give me all the skin texture and all the lovely things that make bodies truly a story and real. I hope you relate to this as well!
Now, let’s see some of these super sexy photos!
Featuring Models Selleck Engel & Kimberly Beckett